1 Feb 2024

Back to School Can Be Scary

Starting school can be exciting for some kids and scary for others. This is true whether they are starting school for the first time, starting a new grade, or starting at a new school. Change in routine can be especially tough for some kids. They may worry about making new friends, getting to know a new teacher, being uncertain about the routine, and being away from home.

Anxiety and worry can often increase when our What If thinking begins to spiral. One What If thought can lead to another and another increasing anxiety.

Some common What If questions about starting or returning to school may include:

  • What if I get lost?
  • What if I’m late to class and everyone looks at me?
  • What if my teacher yells?
  • What if I feel sick?
  • What if I need help?
  • What if I make a mistake?
  • What if I can’t find a friend?

Your child’s behaviour may give you a hint that they are worried or anxious. Be observant and look out for signs that your child may be out of sorts. You may notice that your child is having trouble sleeping or behaving in ways that are not typical for them. They may be telling you that they feel sick. These are just some of the way children may let you know that something is bothering them.

How can you help your young child feel less anxious about going to school?

  • Talk about some of the things they may do at school.
  • Reassure your child that school is a fun and safe space.
  • Remind them that they will make new friends or see old friends.
  • Make a checklist of things your child needs to have for the start of school.
  • Plan fun after school or weekend activities for the first few weeks of school.
  • Listen and validate your child’s concerns but remind them that they can do big challenging things, even when we don’t want to or they make us anxious. Remind them of a previous situation.
  • Help your child develop a positive mantra. It can be as simple as: “I know I can. I know I can. I know I can.”

Remember to talk to the school if you have any concerns about your child settling in to school. If after a month your child still has intense anxiety about school, you may want to seek additional help.

  • Contact us directly by calling 07 4972 6929 or email admin@cqpsychservices.com.au
  • Ask your GP or health professional to refer you to our clinic.
  • Come in and see our friendly staff at Shop 1 & 2, 13 Tank Street, Gladstone QLD 4680.
  • Visit our website and complete a ‘Request an Appointment’ form and one of our friendly staff will reply to your enquiry. Website: https://cqpsychservices.com.au/

Author: Suzie Humphrey 

Founder, Director & Principal Psychologist